A few weeks ago I was excited to read online about an inspiring Muslim woman activist in Dubai who is involved with volunteer organizations like the Jumeirah Islamic Center and the City of Hope (a shelter for abused women). The very next day, I read this article in the Gulf News which completely slanders the activist and the City of Hope. I was shocked and disappointed, but still not completely convinced. One of my friends who know of Sr. Sharla Musabih told me the allegations were false, but I had no proof and wasn’t sure who to believe. Afterall, it was the Gulf News that published the article.
Turns out the Gulf News was completely wrong (its readers said so too) ! Jazakum Allah khairan to the sister who forwarded me this NYT article. Everything makes sense now, and fits right into what I have come to know of Dubai, its government and its people.
I don’t know where to begin. First there is the issue of Sr. Sharla and how someone can find it in himself/herself to slander such a person and tell horrifying lies about her. I pray this person realizes his/her mistake and repents - I would not want to be them on the Day Of Judgement.
Then there’s the whole crew that came together to silence this sister: the goverment, the government-sponsored religious scholar (whom by the way is extremely knowledgable and respected - I have to try hard to find him 70 excuses), the government-sponsored woman’s shelter, and most importantly the media.
I do understand that it is easy for people to criticize Dubai because of it’s success: whether it’s on labor issues, the environment, or any other issue. And I do understand that Dubai’s government must protect defend and protect its image to some extent. But this has gone TOO far.
And of course, the most apalling yet expected level of injustice in all of this: the attitude the state takes towards battered women. And what’s worse - they blame it all on Islam. What do you think Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) would have done if a woman came to him with three broken bones?
I do not know Sr. Sharla and have not visited the City of Hope, so again, all I have to go by are the two articles above. But one of them makes so much more sense than the other - I think it’s obvious which one is right.
Please, if you know Sr. Sharla, please do share your thoughts and comments - I would really like to get to the bottom of this and do whatever I can to help.
Excerpts from the NYT article below:
DUBAI, United Arab Emirates — For years, Sharla Musabih has fought a lonely battle to protect battered wives and victims of human trafficking here. She founded the Emirates’ first women’s shelter here and she became a familiar figure at police stations, relentlessly hounding officers to be tougher on abusive husbands.
She has also earned many enemies. Emiratis do not often take kindly to rights advocates drawing attention to the dark side of their fast-growing city-state on the Persian Gulf, better known for its gleaming office towers and artificial islands.
Still, no one was quite prepared for the stories that started appearing in Dubai newspapers this month. Suddenly, unidentified female victims were coming forward to say that “Mama Sharla” herself had abused them, forced them to work as servants and sold their stories to foreign journalists for thousands of dollars, pocketing the proceeds. She even sold one woman’s baby, the articles said, hinting at criminal investigations.
To Ms. Musabih and her supporters, the accusations, which appear to be baseless, are the latest chapter in a long campaign of threats and defamation that began with angry husbands and has grown to include prominent clerics, and even the directors of a new government-financed women’s shelter, who, she says, would like to silence her.
The ferocity of the dispute is unusual for Dubai, and underscores a major challenge facing this proudly apolitical business capital. The city’s few rights advocates have always been quietly shunted aside. But as the conservative Muslim ethos of Dubai’s native Arab minority rubs against the varied perspectives of a much larger foreign population, debates about how to approach taboo subjects like domestic violence and the city’s prevalent prostitution are getting louder.
Battling Tradition
Ms. Musabih, 47, a boisterous American transplant who was born and raised on Bainbridge Island, Wash., argues that confrontation is essential in fighting the patriarchal Arab traditions that allow men to beat their wives with impunity. She and her supporters also say the Emirates have not acknowledged the severity of their problem with human trafficking, the brutal business in which foreign women are lured here with promises of jobs and then forced into prostitution or servitude. Last year the United States State Department placed the Emirates and 31 other countries on a watch list for failing to effectively combat the illegal trade.
“When a woman has three broken bones in her back, and the police don’t take it seriously, yes, I get angry,” Ms. Musabih said.
Others say Ms. Musabih’s aggressive approach — which includes appeals to foreign news media as well as tough, face-to-face lobbying — is inappropriate in the Arab world, and has needlessly fueled the backlash she now faces. That assertiveness may also have made it easier to dismiss her as an outsider. Although she has lived here for 24 years, converted to Islam, is an Emirati citizen, wears a veil and has raised six children here with her Emirati husband, Ms. Musabih is still unmistakably American, from her moralistic zeal to her habit of calling the women in her shelter “darlin’.”
“I have told her sometimes I think she is wrong, she goes too far,” said Lt. Gen. Dahi al-Khalfan, the chief of the Dubai Police, who has supported Ms. Musabih in the past but now tends to criticize her work as divisive. “There is a case between husband and wife; let the court decide! Leave it.”
Safety and a Ticket Home
Ms. Musabih dates her work as an advocate from 1991, when she started tracking domestic violence cases and offering women shelter in her home in Dubai. In 2001, she rented a two-story house in the Jumeira district and opened a shelter for abused women and their children, naming it City of Hope.
On a recent afternoon, children’s toys littered the floors in the shelter’s sunlit living room, and several women snacked in the kitchen, while others sprawled on couches watching television upstairs. Although Ms. Musabih has had some dedicated assistants over the years, it is basically a one-woman show; she deals with everything from belligerent former husbands to buying plane tickets, sometimes with her own money, for foreign women to return to their home countries.
“I’ve repatriated 400 victims in the past six months,” said Ms. Musabih, a fast-talking, energetic figure who presides over the shelter like an overworked mother.
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